It’s easy in a tough market to let things get to you. The economy is currently showing all the signs of hitting a tough patch. How are you going to cope?  How strong is your self esteem?
Now self esteem, as opposed to ego, is very difficult to get back once it is lost. It is a measure of how you value yourself and it is built up from the day you are born.  Conversely, it is usually destroyed by damaged experiences or relationships. It is one of the most helpful qualities that you or your staff can possess and it stems from the belief that you are worthy to succeed. A healthy self esteem might just see you through tough times.

Often people try to camouflage their low self esteem by displaying excessive confidence. This is just a distraction used to mask their heartfelt deep feeling of inadequacy and vulnerability. Do not be fooled or intimidated by it. Recognise it for what it is, it is just a human solution to intolerable emotional discomfort.

There is no substitute for knowing yourself and knowing where you are likely to succeed. A series of successes will lead you to a healthy level of self esteem so plan for them yourself and help others to plan for them also.

Here are some thoughts for you to consider when trying to raise the level of your own level of self esteem and trying to help others to raise their own self esteem:

• Let go of feeling responsible for those around you; take responsibility for yourself and your choices and feelings
• Never take yourself too seriously; once you lose your sense of humour you have lost control
• Have realistic expectations of yourself but never sell yourself short
• Know yourself; what prevents you from doing something and what makes you good at other things?
• Nurture yourself; give yourself treats, look after yourself, reward yourself, it is so important

Warren Kemp is available not just as a trainer and a speaker – for many years he has been coaching and working with individuals on their issues both personal and professional. If you feel this tip or any others in the series have been helpful why not give us a call to discuss your own situation – initial discussions are totally free and, of course, confidential. 

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